Welcome to my #WonderMamaTribe interview series aimed to celebrate motherhood and all the WONDERful and inspiring Mums out there, working so hard to make sure their little ones are well, loved and appreciated. Which is why every week, I’m bringing you one amazing Mum, her life story and her experiences of being a Mum.
In today’s interview, I’m pleased to introduce to you Victoria from the Lylia Rose blog. I hope you enjoy finding out more about Victoria too! We definitely seem to experience the same work-life balance struggles. Sometimes I do think that women have made lives too difficult for themselves, trying to have it all. What do you think? Let me know in the comments below.
Now back to Victoria’s interview:
1. Tell us a bit about yourself and your children/ family.
My name is Victoria and I’m 32 years old. I am married to Ben and we have two children together; Bella age 5 and Reuben age 3. We live in Gloucestershire which is where I’m from, but I dream of living by the sea one day in a more rural location. We have some garden chickens which people always find fascinating! I’m a full time blogger and home money maker. Ben is an IT manager.
I have two blogs – my main blog where I have been blogging for five years is called Lylia Rose where I blog about family lifestyle, healthy living, working from home and home and garden topics. It’s a UK lifestyle blog and covers a lot of my interests. In January this year I set up a more focussed blog called Healthy Vix where I will concentrate on my biggest passion, all things healthy.
2. What female role models did you have as a young girl and woman?
The Spice Girls came out when I was 11 or 12 who were all about girl power! I loved All Saints too and the strong female vibe they gave out, but in a very cool and non girly way.
3. What females do you currently look up to, inspire you and seek advice from?
I love mummy bloggers and money bloggers! I’m not really into celebrities and don’t watch conventional TV. I have recently got Netflix which I’m loving though. However I am a blogger myself and love to read other blogs I can relate to or enjoy their honest writing style. I particularly love Honest Mum and Slummy Single Mummy.
4. How would you describe yourself as a Mum? What sort of a parent are you?
Stressed out. Ha! No, I love being a mum, but I have found the past year particularly challenging as my daughter was 5 and gaining some attitude and my son had the worst terrible twos ever for a year and it’s still continuing. I always wanted to be a non shouty mum, but I have failed at this, particularly recently as my children scrap a lot! I’d love to say I’m a calm gentle type of parent, but life is hectic busy and always on the go so I’m probably more a strict parent. My husband is the fun one and I’m the serious one! I don’t have a particular approach, just try my best and work it out as we go along. I’m hoping things will be easier once they’re both in full time education and I can have a better work-life balance (I struggle with this at the moment with part time childcare, but trying to work full time from home). Then perhaps I’ll be the calm non shouty mum I always wanted to be!
5. What and who has influenced the kind of a Mum that you are now?
I guess I just don’t want my children to remember being brought up in a stressed out shouty environment. I’d like to be a calmer mum and for them just to have happy memories of their childhood. My husband is a lot calmer than me and he definitely inspires me.
6. What’s your favourite part of being a Mum?
Having two beautiful children that are mine and will always be mine. No one else can ever be their mum, just me. I think that’s such a magical bond to have. I love to watch them grow and develop, it’s so exciting when they are young and learn things for the first time. Seeing that fascination of the world around them brings so much joy.
7. And what is the hardest part?
The children fighting! It’s exhausting.
8. Do you think it’s hard being a Mum in this day and age?
Yes, definitely. Especially if, like me, you want to have a career too. Trying to juggle running a business, doing the majority of the childcare and the housework, cooking meals from scratch, organising your husband, and trying to stay fit and healthy yourself. It’s a challenge. Plus you are judged all the time, no matter what you do. I find it overwhelming. But I hope things will be easier when I have more childcare so I can have more time to work and not have to work around the children so much. I sometimes wish I could just be happy being a stay at home mum and not working, but for me it doesn’t make me happy and I really want to earn my own money and work. Perhaps I was brought up with too much girl power and now I’m making things harder for myself?!
9. What three pieces of advice would you give to first-time/ expectant Mums?
- You’ll be judged no matter what, so follow your own heart and do what you think is right.
- Take lots of photos, especially every day in the first few months. You’ll be amazed at how quickly they change and aren’t a new-born anymore.
- If you are still expecting, then make the most of some peace and quiet while you can!
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