Welcome to my #WonderMamaTribe interview series aimed to celebrate motherhood and all the WONDERful and inspiring Mums out there, working so hard to make sure their little ones are well, loved and appreciated. Which is why every week, I’m bringing you one amazing Mum, her life story and her experiences of being a Mum.
This week, I’ve really enjoyed finding out more about the lovely Gail from the Yammy Mommy blog. Hope you will too!
1. Tell us a bit about yourself and your children/ family.
I am Mommy to Finley, age 3 and Wife to Stuart, who I married in 2012! We live in Dudley, West Midlands. I work part time as a Client Manager for a PR company in Birmingham. We live a pretty hectic but happy life!
My blog Yammy Mommy is all about our life in the Black Country! We love days out and go on quite a few little trips, so I like to do reviews of where we go. It’s always good to know about child-friendly parking, changing facilities, costs so I try and incorporate these in my write ups. Also write about general motherhood highs and lows!
2. What female role models did you have as a young girl and woman?
My Mom of course. We were and still are very very close. She has always been there for me. I was a massive Kylie Minogue fan as a little girl! She was gorgeous and fun and seemed to have it all! Now I am older, I really admire women such as Jessica Ennis, Kate Middleton, anyone really who works hard and is compassionate!
3. What females do you currently look up to, inspire you and seek advice from?
I have sought advice on many occasions from my own Mom since becoming a Mother! I can ask her anything from potty training advice to guidance on teaching him to read and write! I cannot convey enough how valuable getting yourself a good Mommy tribe is. A group of women going through exactly the same stage of life as you are, facing the same challenges and experiencing the same joyful moments you are provides you so much comfort and joy.
4. How would you describe yourself as a Mum? What sort of a parenting approach do you have (or not)?
We treat Finley how we want to be treated by him. We don’t smack, don’t shout (ok, hardly ever shout, we are human!) and treat him with respect. We try as much as we can to be firm but fair and have clear boundaries as to what is acceptable and what is not. We promote kindness to each other and hard work, and we have lots of kisses and cuddles! Hopefully it’s a fun house to grow up in!
5. What and who has influenced the kind of a Mum that you are now?
My own upbringing has a lot of influence on the parent I am now. I was never smacked as a child and my Mom always took time to explain to me the right way and the wrong way of doing things. She wasn’t overly strict – we were and still are great friends and I hope that as well as being his Mom Finley will also view me as a friend too.
6. What’s your favourite part of being a Mum?
The cuddles, the funny things he comes out with every day and watching him grow and learn. He makes me burst with pride every day.
7. And what is the hardest part?
Knowing if you are doing the right thing – it’s all a guessing game!
8. Do you think it’s hard being a Mum in this day and age?
I think it depends how you look at it. We can pick up our mobiles and go online and get advice about anything and everything at the click of a button. Everything is family-friendly nowadays – pubs, supermarkets, cars. The equipment available makes tasks easy and quick. I think the biggest pressure is the rising costs of everything, meaning both parents returning to work, high childcare costs and the decline of ‘the village’.
9. What three pieces of advice would you give to first-time/ expectant Mums?
#1 – The best gift you can give your child is your time. Put your phone down, sit on the floor and just be silly. Some of the funniest moments we have had in our house have been mucking around on the floor being crazy.
#2 – Don’t expect to have a huge rush of love for your baby when you give birth – it comes in time. I had a horrible labour and when Finley was born I just wanted to eat and go to sleep. Someone had told me I would feel this way and I was so grateful they had!
#3 – Cuddle, kiss and enjoy all you can of those first few days, months and years. Even the feeds in the small hours – you will miss them when they are over.
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