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I’m really excited to launch today, on Mother’s Day, my new weekly interview series entitled #WonderMamaTribe. The intention for this series is to celebrate motherhood and all the WONDERful and inspiring Mums out there, working so hard to make sure their little ones are well, loved and appreciated, and to bring them up to be the best human beings they can be. That is no mean feat so we Mums really must support each other! Which is why every week, I’ll be bringing you one amazing Mum, her life story and her experiences of being a Mum.
I’m also launching an Instagram community, using the hashtag #WonderMamaTribe, so that we can inspire each other and celebrate all our daily achievements. Feel free to spread the news and tag your friends, wives, partners, daughters, sisters, Mums and Nans in your Instagram photos with a hashtag #WonderMama. Each week, I’ll be selecting one special Mama to be featured on my blog as an inspiration to all of us.
As it’s Mother’s Day today, it was only fitting to start this series by interviewing my one and only Mummy who’s always been my best friend and a true inspiration.
1. Tell us a bit about yourself and your children/ family.
I’ve been happily married for the past 35 years and I have two children: daughter Alexandra who’s 34 years and son Wojtek (pronounced Voytek) who’s nearly 31. My children are my everything, my biggest treasure. I’ve now also been blessed with two grandsons Leo and Max who I absolutely adore. My husband Adam and I live in a small town in north-west Poland in a beautiful house by a lake. My husband is a dental technician and owns his own surgery right next door to our house and I help him run it on a day to day basis. We see each other A LOT but we love it! I used to work as an accountant before I had children but due to ongoing long-term health problems after I had my children, I had to stop working. In my spare time, I love to do gardening – we have a large garden, part of which I use as a fruit and veg patch. Every year I grow lots of fresh vegetables and fruit, turning them into conserves, jams, juices, you name it. I find gardening so therapeutic and I’m really proud of it! A couple of years ago, my daughter also got me into make-up and I love watching make up vloggers on YouTube 🙂
2. What female role models did you have as a young girl and woman?
My Mum has always been the biggest role model for me. She worked really hard doing shifts and despite many life challenges, she always took such great care of me and my brother. I remember her always being so well-dressed and groomed, and when she used to make these cute little outfits for me and my brother as she was very good at sewing. I also remember that she always had everything under control, making sure the house was tidy, meals were always freshly cooked – all of this despite being a working Mum – so I really admire her for it.
3. What females do you currently look up to, inspire you and seek advice from?
My Mum remains my main inspiration because despite being 80 years old, she is still very independent and active. She’s been a part of this local singing group of older men and women, and they meet weekly to practice and then take part in local and regional contests, many of which they also won. They also recorded a CD and teamed up with a similar older singing group in Germany who they meet a couple of times a year – how great is that? I have been to a few of their ‘concerts’ and I love seeing how much joy this brings to her.
I’m also inspired by my daughter Alex who always gives me good and honest advice. I know I can always talk to her and rely on her. I’ve been very impressed (not to mention proud) to see her graduate with a first class degree in a foreign country, build a career as a Programme Manager in the charity sector and now become a Mum of two children. I really don’t know how she manages to also find time for blogging.
4. How would you describe yourself as a Mum? What sort of a parent are you?
I’ve always aimed to be the type of Mum who is also a good friend to her kids. I really believe in the power of conversation and always wanted to make sure my children knew they could come to me to confide, share their worries and ask for advice.
5. What and who has influenced the kind of a Mum that you are now?
As I mentioned before, my Mum has had a huge influence on me. She was a hard-working Mum who really had to juggle everything, despite many challenges, and for that I will always have so much respect for her. She was there for me when I had my children, supporting me and my husband, and when I was poorly and in and out of hospitals, she often stayed with us to make sure the children were looked after. Her selfless and kind spirit really influenced me to be the best Mum I can possibly be.
6. What’s your favourite part of being a Mum?
Having children is the biggest responsibility in life but at the same time it brings so much joy and happiness. The best part of having children, now that they’re grown up, is that I can always rely on them and we’re always supporting each other. Being part of our own little ‘team’, despite them having their own lives, is just so lovely. I love our chats on Skype, our silly message exchanges on WhatsApp, and when they visit me and my husband. The time spent together is so precious.
7. And what is the hardest part?
Living so far away from my children (with Alex living in the UK and my son in Germany), the hardest part of being a Mum is missing them every single day and not being able to see them as often as I’d like to. No Skype chat will ever replace their visits 🙁
8. Do you think it’s hard being a Mum in this day and age?
I think that these days, it’s quite challenging to be a Mum as there’s so much pressure on women to ‘have it all’ – high-flying careers, pristine houses whilst still having the time for their children. There’s also so much hatred and violence in the world and so difficult not to worry about the impact this may have on our children, no matter how young or old they are.
9. What three pieces of advice would you give to first-time/ expectant Mums?
I think it’s so important to just enjoy being a Mum as time just flies by so quickly (believe me, I know this all too well! Sometimes I can’t believe my kids are in their 30s already!) and find as much time as possible for them. I’m also a firm believer in telling and showing your children how much you love them on a daily basis. But the most important thing for me is finding the time to talk to your children as those day to day conversations, no matter how mundane and simple, give the most security to them.
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